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They both helped me realized the problem, work my way to a point of being able to throw things away and discuss the situation with people as well as my shrink. I highly recommend this book and the watching of Hoarders on A and E channel.
I'm responding only because I keep getting email asking for a review :( It hasn't been delivered yet. I really don't have a review. I purchased the book as a gift for someone else for Christmas.
Methods provided for working to overcome these problems set forth in clear action steps. An easy read, with the acknowledgement of the work required to overcome the problem is not easy. Numerous examples permit recognition of specific motivations involved in the need to acquire and/or not dispose of items.
I will definitely finish reading this one and share it with others. I haven't finished reading the book yet, but it helps people to understand the hoarding mentality. It's quite interesting.
They define three conditions for hoarding: 1. Sort it in bins, then discard, donate, sell--yep, the way to go, except, Mr. Someone volunteered to help me organize, but the thought put me in panic mode. It's a beginning, whereas I was stuck in time before this book.Thank you, Tolin, Frost, and Steketee. So, how does a hoarder follow through.
Accumulating, then having difficulty getting rid of things of limited or useless value,2. Hoarding did not happen overnight nor will the clutter disappear overnight. Writers David Tolin, Randy Frost, and Gail Steketee name the condition as compulsive hoarding and stating that overcoming the problem is hard work. Both the clutter itself and discarding the clutter cause distress.
The book is very helpful. "Buried in Treasures" is helping. Easy for you. I literally could not touch anything to put away or discard. "Buried in Treasures: Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding" is for "collectors," of which I most certainly am one.
Reinforcement through repetition of information and self-help tests interspersed throughout the book force the reader to think and respond, think and respond.The authors show the hoarder how to begin discarding through information: strategies, lists, categorizing, flowcharts, agencies that will accept your discards, setting up filing systems, rules, everything, anything that will help begin the discarding process. The point is to have the "keep" bin the emptiest. I won't go into details, but my severe acquiring and cluttering developed as a result of divorce. Here's an example of treating one aspect of hoarding: Making decisions. The second step is to set a specific length of time every day to de-clutter until the clutter is gone, whether one hour or fifteen minutes.
If you are a "collector," you know you must solve--all on your own--this problem of accumulating too much stuff.Oh yes, it would be wonderful to have someone come in and help you make all the stuff disappear, as the team on "Clean House" does. or Miss Collector, you cannot put it in any bins except to keep it. Tedious, you say. A decision has two parts: make a decision, then follow-through. A hoarder will pick up something, not be able to decide what to do with it, and put it back amidst the clutter for a decision later. The point is to get past the point of getting started.Getting started: Obtain bins for trashing, donating, and keeping.
At least, I have started the process and have thrown out several boxes of stuff in the last week alone. Follow it. Your book is itself a treasure, but it's not buried.
Make a schedule. Right.That's where this book comes in--it actually breaks down every argument your pesky little mind can throw in your way to de-clutter. A whole list of questions is provided for handling each item.
In order for the hoarder to address the problem, he/she must understand the causes for hoarding, the results, and reasons to change. It had to just sit there, taking up space, keeping people away. Clutter that limits or prevents the use of living spaces in the manner for which they were intended,3.
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